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Waldron W.I.N.G.S. (Women In Need Growing Strong)

Waldron W.I.N.G.S. is an EMERGENCY shelter for domestic violence victims  (men or women) and their families.  It is open 24 hours a day in an undisclosed area. You have the power to acquire a Protection Order or
Restraining Order but it is not required.  Lovely Hall is the Program Director.  FOR HELP, CALL 211.

Domestic violence is a pattern of violent behavior that an individual uses to gain power and control over another individual.

        •  According to the American Bar Association's Commission on Domestic Violence:
        "Approximately 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner
        annually in the United States."
        •    Do you know the behavior that is considered to be abusive?
        •    Do you know how to get help?
        •    What is your safety plan?
What is the behavior of an individual who demonstrates domestic violence abuse?  
      ∠    Does your partner follow you or monitor your phone calls with friends and family?
        ∠    Does your partner make frequent accusations?
        ∠    Does your partner criticize you frequently about your family, friends or your movements?
        ∠    Does your partner criticize how you dress, wear make-up or speak?  
        ∠    Has your partner slapped, kicked, or hit you, even while pregnant?
        ∠    Is your partner possessive, controlling or bossy to the point of no flexibility?
        ∠    Does your partner blame you for his inappropriate behavior?
        ∠    Has your partner broken or attempted to harm your personal belongings to get you upset?
        ∠    Has your partner harmed your child or allowed the child watch him abuse you?

What do you do if you are being abused by your partner/parent/child?
        ∠    If you have been hit, slapped, kicked, etc., Call 911 immediately for assistance and seek
               medical help.
        ∠    If you are noticing these signs of abuse, a decision must be made to leave and seek a
               safe place.  The abuser will always apologize after the abuse and then promise to change. 
              The abuse will continue.
        ∠    Decide where the safe place is.....maybe with family members, friends, a hotel, or a shelter.  A safe place is
              where the abuser cannot find you.

What do you need to take with you when you leave for your safe place? 
        •    If you cannot stay with family or friends, then, call 211 to seek shelter.
        •    Pack clothes, personal items, prescription drugs, vehicle title, medical insurance papers, birth
             certificates, social security cards, marriage license, and tax returns.  If children are involved, please
             pack their special toys, medication and their clothes.  
        •    Put these items in a safe place that is hidden and convenient for when you leave.

When and how do you leave?
        •    Decide on a time that is the safest to leave the house with your belongings and when the
             abuser is not around.  (Sometimes this is when the person is asleep or at work.)
        •    Think about where you are going to go and make arrangements for your arrival.
        •    When you leave, do not use the regular route to the safe place.
        •    Plan the escape route and teach it to your children.
        •    After you leave, do not contact the abuser or his family.  Keep the cell phone for yourself.

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